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Those pesky vows…

October 10, 2008

It was probably a blur of activity, and now you rely on photographs and video to remember the details.  But it happened.  There the two of you stood before God and witnesses, staring at each other with googly-eyed awe.  Sniffling, hastily wiping away tears.  Looking stunning in a white dress or a black suit, overwhelmed by the scent of fresh flowers and the smoke from fifty gazillion candles.  Remembering to bend your knees every so often.  Making little jokes while the soloist sang, sneaking glances while the pastor prayed.  Repeating the vows without giving much thought at all to what you were saying…

To have and to hold from this day forward…

   for better, for worse…

      for richer, for poorer…

         in sickness and in health…

Do you remember saying that?  Do you remember thinking about how long “from this day forward” really meant?  How about how bad the worst could be?  Was there a qualification for what level of poor you would get to?  Did sickness mean a little cold, when that man you’re holding acts like a complete and total baby, or your wife expects you to bring her chicken noodle soup and a small glass of soda without her asking because you should know just what she needs?

Those thoughts probably didn’t go through your mind.  Who thinks about the negative at a time like that?  About losing jobs, changing jobs, and hard times on their wedding day?  Who thinks about illnesses?  Psh.  Why would you?

But maybe we should be thinking about those vows when these things come up, right?  Of course we didn’t know what we were in for when we said them, but we meant them just the same.  And they apply!  We are to love, cherish and honor each other through every twist and turn of this ride.

In our home, the whole sickness and health thing has about been beat into the ground.  Who would have ever thought that in under 5 years of marriage there would have been two major surgeries?  Who would have thought that in less than 6 we’d be even thinking about something like cancer?  (Wait, that happened twice now… Once before the colonoscopy as well.) 

I think about all the friends we have here who have moved from other places, often times for the husbands’ jobs.  They’ve been uprooted from family and friends to come to what some feel is a godforsaken place.  They have a choice to accept it and be a team, or one or both of them can be miserable until something changes and takes them back to where they started.  It really warms my heart to see so many couples really united, standing together, trying to find ways to make their lives better together, wherever it is that they land.

That one blurry day holds a lot more significance than we give it credit for sometimes.  It was more than a big party with fancy clothes and a white cake.  It was the day that you committed to living life with that one person through thick and thin, not knowing what in the world that would be.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. sonya permalink
    October 10, 2008 10:32 am

    wow, perfectly said!

    can i get an “amen”?!

    anyone…anyone…bueller? 😉

  2. Katrina Marie permalink
    October 10, 2008 10:37 am

    Amen, amen, and AMEN!

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