Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.
In the book Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex, the authors make this glorious statement: “It is pure, right and holy for you to daydream about your husband’s body.” That’s license to lust, baby!
Read Song of Solomon sometime. If you’re able to, find a commentary or something that explains just what the Shulamite woman is talking about when she makes some of those references to her lover. Now I fully understand why I blushed so much whenever I read it as a teenager!
Yet that’s how I need to look at The Husband! Talk about The Husband! (To an extent — my friends are ever so squeamish!) One of my favorite activities from Intimate Issues was taking Song of Solomon 5.10-16 and replacing “my lover” with The Husband’s name. Here’s my little paraphrase of parts of those verses, using The Message and a little NIV, and a little me:
Move over Orlando Bloom, my husband is one in a million! His eyes are like doves, soft and bright, but deep set, brimming with meaning, like wells of water. His words are kisses, his kisses words. Everything about him delights me, thrills me, through and through! My husband is sweetness itself and he is altogether lovely! That’s my husband, that’s my man, dear sisters!
Try it! You might like it! And now, I’m off to find The Husband…